April 24, 2017
Research has found that having clarity about your goals is essential to having the motivation to achieve those goals. If you’re not clear on what you’re doing, it’s hard to be motivated. Which is why seemingly easy tasks, like sending a fax, could end up taking months. There’s a lack of clarity on how to do it, so you don’t — until either, you have to or it’s too late.
Can you relate?
Unfortunately, having a lack of clarity is why so many people settle for less than their dreams. Robert Brault, author of Round Up the Usual Subjects, says, “We are kept from our goal not by obstacles but by a clear path to a lesser goal.”
You want clarity so badly that you’re willing to settle for lesser goals, simply because the path to getting your true goal is less obvious.
When you’re trying to accomplish something big, you have the why but rarely the how. The path to achieving your goals is far from obvious.
You have no clue how you’re going to do what you want to do.
According to some scholars, fear of the unknown might be the foundation of all other fears. In order to avoid the unknown, most people bail on their dreams.
Here’s how you can find the clarity and understanding to achieve your biggest goals.
When you experience the unknown, what is your emotional experience?
Most people perceive the unknown as threatening, signifying a low tolerance for ambiguity. But some people are more open to the unknown.
Interestingly, researchers have found that children generally have a higher tolerance for ambiguity than adults. Children are often more willing to accept murky conditions—situations where the likelihood of winning or losing is unknown. As you get older though, your desire for surety and security keeps you safely protected in your comfort zone.
Research has found that the more satisfied you are with your work, the higher your tolerance for ambiguity. In other words, if you enjoy and believe in what you’re doing, you’ll take on the emotional discomfort of the unknown. Bill Walsh, former head coach of the San Francisco 49ers says, “If your why is strong enough, you will figure out how!”
It’s settled then: If you want to achieve big things, your path will be unclear and hazy. The emotional need for clarity and fear of the unknown leads people to abandon their dreams for more straightforward pursuits.
Having goal clarity is essential to motivation. Consequently, in order to get motivated to achieve your big dreams, you need clarity. But this does not mean you have it all figured out. It means you’re clear on the next step or two.
If you’re at mile marker 1 and your dream is at mile marker 50, you just need enough info and support to get to mile marker 3 or 4. Once you get there, you’ll need further instructions. But you have no clue what those instructions will be, because you don’t currently know what you don’t know. When you get to the next step, you’ll be able to ask better questions. You’ll be able to better assess who can help you get to mile marker 5, 6, 7 or 8. What got you here won’t get you there.
You’re on a treasure hunt and you’re finding clues and guides along the way. This is the process and emotional experience of pursuing a big dream.
Here’s what you need to move forward right now:
1. A clear checkpoint (so you actually know what to do)
2. A hard and fast timeline
3. The right tools and systems
4. A support structure
If you have these four things, you’ll have enough clarity—and thus enough motivation—to move forward. You’ll be stretching, growing and moving while other people are overwhelmed by the distance between mile marker 1 and 50. While they’re staring at the forest from a distance, you’re winding your way through the trees. And soon enough, you’ll be on the other side.
With this backdrop, here’s the most effective way I’ve found to getting just enough clarity to continuously move forward.
When you seek learning, it should be purposeful.
As an executive coach, I’m surprised how many people seek my advice without knowing what they want. I can’t make someone else’s decisions for them. And no one can make my decisions for me.
But when people seek my services for a very specific reason, and it’s clear I’m the right person to help them get from point A to point B, things work out marvelously. Because when you know what you want to learn, you can then decide who can help you get there.
Only you can decide the direction of your training. Research has found that self-directed learning is highly correlated with learning satisfaction. Thus, what you learn should clearly connect with your interests and goals. As Albert Einstein said, “That is the way to learn the most, that when you are doing something with such enjoyment that you don’t notice that the time passes.”
How the Mormon church trains their young missionaries to speak foreign languages so efficiently has garnered lots of attention. When an 18- or 19-year-old enters the Missionary Training Center (MTC), they enter something of a language learning boot camp. Students at the MTC learn in a few weeks what takes most college students three to four years.
Many universities have applied the MTC’s methods to their language learning curricula. The U.S. Military has also studied and teamed with the MTC to better understand how to efficiently train their soldiers. As a result, the Army’s Intelligence Brigade, based in Utah, draws on former Mormon missionaries to fill their ranks.
So what are some of the MTC methods?
Primarily, the MTC uses context-based learning. They start by reciting a phrase and working on the pronunciation. Once the student has a basic grasp, they are put into groups of two to role play real-world scenarios. Role plays make up approximately 70 percent of learning at the MTC—learning while doing—with a teacher standing by to individually coach when needed.
The system is simple:
Interestingly, researchers examined the effects of role playing on the self-concept of shy adolescents. One group of adolescents received traditional discussion-based training while another did role play based training. The group that did role plays experienced a significant positive change in their self-concept, which has a significant impact on their behavior.
In our digital world, simulation training—based on role playing real-world scenarios—is becoming increasing popular. Additionally, research has found that getting consistent feedback is essential to effective learning.
I define learning as a permanent change in cognition and/or behavior. In other words, true learning involves a permanent change in how you see and act in the world. The accumulation of information isn’t learning.
If you want to learn something quickly, you need to immerse yourself in that thing and immediately implement what you’re learning.
The fastest way to learn Spanish, for instance, is by immersing yourself in a Spanish culture. Flash cards for 15 minutes a day will eventually get you there. But you’ll make deeper connections with a few days fully immersed than you would in months of “dabbling.”
You need enough clarity to have high motivation to move forward. The more clarity you have of the path set before you, the higher your motivation will be to go down that path. So rather than trying to motivate yourself, your goal should be to clarify the next few steps ahead of you.
When you move beyond dabbling to full commitment, you’ll want to learn quickly. So, you’ll need a teacher. Someone who can help you take the next few steps.
This teacher can be in the form of a book or an online course. Or it can be an actual person. The benefit of a real person is getting immediate, relevant feedback and direct answers to your questions.
Recently I hired someone to help me learn software for my online business. I wanted an immersion-type experience. Turns out, he lives seven hours away from me. So I drove down to his house and spent two days straight with him. I slept on his couch in my jeans and T-shirt.
In these two days, I learned more than I could’ve learned in six months on my own. My teacher could quickly assess where I was. I was able to ask him questions. On an easel board, he would explain the software and how it worked.
After explaining the concepts and answering my questions, he would immediately have me apply my learning. This exposed the true gaps in my understanding. Being able to apply something, after all, is the difference between knowing something and understanding it. Napoleon Hill says, “Knowledge is only potential power. It becomes power only when, and if, it is organized into definite plans of action.”
While implementing what I learned, my teacher would watch me from a distance. He let me struggle as I tried to remember what he had just shown me.
The first time applying what he taught took a lot of time and effort. So we did it again, and again, and again. Over time, I became competent and confident.
Learning something new is all about memory and how you use it. At first, your prefrontal cortex—which stores your working (or short-term) memory—is really busy figuring out how the task is done.
But once you’re proficient, the prefrontal cortex gets a break. In fact, it’s freed up by as much as 90 percent. Once this happens, you can perform that skill automatically, leaving your conscious mind to focus on other things.
This level of performance is called automaticity, and reaching it depends on what psychologists0 call over-learning or over-training.
The process of getting a skill to automaticity involves four steps, or stages:
Essentially, you want your understanding of something to be fluid and flexible. You want to be able to apply your learning in different contexts and for different purposes. You learn your skill in and out.
Once the training is complete, you need to take it into the real world. You do this by setting huge goals requiring you to use the knowledge you’ve just acquired.
Just before leaving my teacher’s house, we set goals together. Although the goals seemed overwhelmingly big, I felt confident I could achieve them because I now had clarity.
The timeline to achieve my goals was three months. At the end of those three months, I’d be back at his house for more training. We were on each other’s Google calendars and I paid him in advance for our next immersion learning experience.
Clarity is what creates motivation.
Tracking is what creates awareness.
Reporting is what creates accountability.
Having these three will help you progress quickly.
If you’re not tracking your daily behaviors, you are undoubtedly doing worse than you think you are. For example, most people have no clue where their money goes because they don’t track their expenses.
According to research, self-regulation is the psychological process that detects inconsistency between your goals and your behaviors. It is the ignition of your motivational forces helping you get from where you are to where you want to be.
Specifically, self-regulation works in three ways:
Beyond tracking, research has found that accountability improves performance. When you report your performance to someone, particularly someone you respect, it adds external and relational motivation to succeed.
During your accountability sessions, you can get coaching and feedback on where you can improve.
Striving to accomplish big goals is not easy. Most people will give up on their dreams in order to have a clear path to lesser goals.
If you want to move quickly toward your big goals, you’ll need to become proficient at acquiring clarity for the next few steps of your journey. The best way to do this is through context-based and immersion-style learning.
The deeper and wider your clarity, the bigger your goals can be. In order to ensure you achieve those goals, you’ll need to track your behaviors daily and have an intense accountability system in place.
It’s all in the setup. When you set up the conditions effectively, you make the achievement of your goals inevitable.