Women still do a majority of housework and childcare, and in many cases husbands’ careers get prioritized. Approach your relationship as a true partner. Couples who share responsibilities have stronger marriages—and their children benefit from seeing their parents model equality.
Communication is critical in relationships. Marriages are stronger when both partners talk through disagreements calmly and listen to each other’s perspectives, and this is particularly important when you’re managing a home or raising children together.
Discuss your goals for your home and career with your partner. Listen carefully to what she wants and be vocal about your own needs. Then keep the conversation going. Talk through unresolved issues and review your calendars and to-do lists together. When you see your partner has too much to do, ask her how she’s feeling and how you can help.
DID YOU KNOW?
Women are interrupted more than men. Even if you’re supportive of the women in your life, you may not be giving them the airtime they deserve.
Couples are more likely
to relocate for the
Many women make professional sacrifices to support their partner’s career, and men still assume their partner will do the lion’s share of child care. In addition, couples often prioritize the husband’s career when they make household decisions. Over time, these trends can lead to missed opportunities for you as a couple.
Make decisions as a team. Consider what’s good for both of you, and be clear about each other’s trade-offs. It’s not about finding the perfect compromise with each decision; it’s about achieving a healthy balance over time. If you have children, treat child care as a joint responsibility.
DID YOU KNOW?
According to a survey of graduates from Harvard Business School, three-quarters of millennial women anticipate their careers will be at least as important as their partners, while half of millennial men believe their careers will take priority.
Running a house and raising children is hard work—and women still do most of it. This means many women don’t get the support they need at home, and women who work outside the home often end up with two full-time jobs while their partners have one. More women than ever are primary or co-breadwinners, yet only 9 percent of couples in dual-income marriages say that they share child care, housework, and breadwinning evenly.
Approach the responsibilities of housework and child care as real partners. Commit to doing your share of daily chores, and make sure work is split fairly. Don’t wait to be asked—step up when you see dishes in the sink or laundry piling up.
DID YOU KNOW?
When men share household responsibilities, their wives are happier and their marriages are stronger. Not only does marital satisfaction go up, but couples have more sex—“choreplay” is real!
Women are more likely than men to think
their gender will make it hard to get a raise, promotion, or chance to get ahead.
Men typically apply for jobs when they meet 60 percent of the hiring criteria, while women wait until they meet 100 percent. Though women negotiate as often as men, they tend to ask for less money because they anticipate pushback. And they are right to worry—research shows that women are often penalized for asserting themselves. There is a good chance these dynamics impede your partner’s career advancement and your income as a couple.
Encourage your partner to keep lobbying for a promotion or stretch assignment and commit to doing your fair share at home. When it’s time to negotiate her compensation, encourage her to ask for more and role play the conversation.
DID YOU KNOW?
Women who don’t negotiate for more leave money on the table. Over the course of their career, this can amount to hundreds of thousands of dollars in lost earnings.
We’re all held back by gender stereotypes. Women are expected to be kind and collaborative, while men are expected to be strong and in charge. As a result, we’re often uncomfortable when women lead and men nurture, which makes it harder for all of us to be our whole selves.
Show the people in your life what equality looks like. Model a broader definition of manhood and celebrate your partner’s ambitions. If you have kids, encourage your daughter to speak up and take the lead and your son to respect his feelings and care for others. Point out and challenge gender bias when you see it. When you reject outdated stereotypes, others will follow.
DID YOU KNOW?
Seventy-six percent of people who’ve taken Harvard University’s Implicit Association Test more readily associate males with “career” and females with “family.” You can take it yourself at leanin.org/IAT.
Picture a high end, serene coworking space in a AAA building in Jersey City. Now erase the beer kegs and replace them with freshly pressed juices. Delete the Ping-Pong table and replace it with tai-chi classes. Take out the frat house type noise and watch a group of focused entrepreneurs make ideas happen. The success stories of WorkSocial are endless. From companies scaling from 1 to 50 in 8 months, entrepreneurs getting funded in a quick 6 months and access to hundreds of hours of server space. What is totally unique is that this shared office space in Jersey City, NJ charges $0 for more.
Here is the backstory of WorkSocial. In February 2015 my father passed away. He gave up. He gave up the desire to live. He succumbed to depression in the face of cancer. In his prime he was like Superman on Steroids. My fondest memory of my father was listening to him talk on the phone. His mild manner he made multi-million dollar deals. No paperwork, no contracts or SOW’s. I once asked him if he was ever scared that people would not keep their word and he would lose money. To that he responded, the first law of business is to serve people enough and they will never let you down. That really moved me.
The last time I met dad, I was in India. In our home in New Delhi. I asked dad jokingly if he had any fatherly advice for me. In his feeble and wise voice he muttered, beta [hindi for son] if you can find a way to be happy please do. 1 Month later he was gone. He saw through my struggles and unhappiness.
8 Months later my wife and I started WorkSocial | Happiness Company at 111 Town Square Place, Jersey City, NJ 07310.
A platform created with the purpose of bringing happiness back to people’s life. My mentor Robin Sharma taught me, if you want a lifetime of happiness. Spend your life giving happiness to people. So to follow dad’s last wish we created a platform to bring happiness back to work. Please don’t get us wrong, we do make a profit. My father was an extraordinary entrepreneur so we created a profitable business out of this.
In the months prior to opening WorkSocial we started to conceptualize the user experience. How did we want our clients to feel when the walked in to start their day, invited a client for a sales pitch and left WorkSocial at the end of the day.
Here are some of the themes that we came up with:
A place to brainstorm and make ideas happen
ames Allen described the perfect worksocial member in his work As a Man Thinketh:
“The dreamers are the saviors of the world. As the visible world is sustained by the invisible, so men, through all their trials and sins and sordid vocations, are nourished by the beautiful visions of their solitary dreamers. Humanity cannot forget its dreamers; it cannot let their ideals fade and die; it lives in them; it knows them in the realities which it shall one day see and know.
I am Natasha Mohan, a mother of 2 kids (a girl and boy), the wife of a loving guy and an accountant, a daughter of an awesome mom, a daughter in law (of a great woman), a sister, an aunt (to some 20 nieces and nephews) and a now an entrepreneur leading a team .
My journey as a business owner started when I opened WorkSocial in January 2016. WorkSocial is a coworking and shared office space in Jersey City, New Jersey.
I was returning to Corporate America after a 15 year pause. My job of being a mother and wife was going to change. My daughter decided on boarding school and my son was in middle school. It was time for me to leanin and realize my dream
Getting through 2 years
The choices I made with my team was that we would focus only on excellent client service. Charge a fair fee and on focus on a value creation delivery model of 10X. The formula seemed to work, we sold out in a few months. Things were great.
In expansion mode things were fast paced and we needed to adapt to market and client needs.
We made some choices along the way I need to rethink today. So I am journaling it for my own benefit and the benefit of my teams.
Year 3: Our goal is to achieve exponential growth in 2018. But it will not be through the standard means. We are going to adopt the manifesto of the generosity and abundance.
Service: Our growth will determined by how many people we serve and how well we serve. Appearances can be deceiving. In fact, they almost always are! So to take the guesswork out of our business and operations we will act in total transparency with our teams.
2018 Commitment: Our growth in 2018 will be derived purely by creating exponential growth for all our clients.
2 Simple questions will drive our growth:
In other words we will always exceed people’s expectations.
In the next few days we will work on defining our influence, authenticity and receptivity will define us in 2018..
More to come
To some, especially if you’re introverted, working in isolation may seem like a dream come true. Whether you finally have the chance to work remotely or you’re doing the freelance hustle, nothing’s better than staying in bed to do your work, right?
While it may seem ideal, this can lead to a lonely and unfulfilling life. Ever felt like every day repeated itself for weeks on end? Try feeling like that when you hardly get the chance to leave the house.
Isolating yourself isn’t a good idea, even while you’re working. You may think you’re focused, but loneliness can have a terrible effect on your work.
One of the benefits of working in isolation is that you don’t have to adhere to a corporate process at every moment. This especially counts if you’re working freelance.
However, you can run into problems if you don’t develop your own process for dealing with problems. If it’s just you for yourself, you can easily get overwhelmed at the amount of work you have to do.
Especially if all of your work is on a tight deadline, you may experience fear or anxiety at what needs to be done, which is counterproductive to actually doing it.
It’s obvious that you need some kind of process. The great thing about working in isolation is that you can approach a process however you’d like.
When you’re working alone without anyone directing you, it’s very easy to throw too much of yourself into a process and start analyzing every little thing. After all, you want it to be perfect for your client, right?
This isn’t an effective way to approach your work because you’ll get bogged down. Overanalyzing every word, every line of code, or every brushstroke will just add more work for you to do.
Overanalyze and you’ll never get any work done.
The easiest way to avoid working in isolation is to work together – literally!
In a setup made for coworking, you’ll share an office space, whether owned by a member of the group or a community office space.
From there, whatever rules you’ve made for your own work process apply! You’re working in a group rather than in isolation. Since most of you will be working on individual projects, you’ll get to take advantage of the socialization benefits of an active work family. At the same time, you can disregard any corporate pressure and complaints that your office-worker friends have.
This can help motivate you to actually work, as well. If everyone around you is working, you might find that you’re more productive.
When you’re working in isolation, it’s difficult to meet new people. If you don’t have a working family, who can you turn to? Regardless of your hobbies or what you’re interested in, you’re almost certain to find a Meetup group focused toward that.
Regardless of your hobbies or what you’re interested in, you’re almost certain to find a Meetup group focused toward that.
It’s also possible that you’ll find a work-related meetup, either for networking or coworking.
Most of the time, it’s free to attend a group (apart from group dues, which may be waived for new members and aren’t any more than a couple of dollars), and it’s a great way to meet people who you connect with.
When you’re working in isolation or freelance, it’s easy to schedule a huge block of time as “work time.”
Still, it’s important to take a break from our daily tasks and step away from the computer to get some fresh air.
Schedule a solid block for lunchtime, and invite a friend to come with you! Maybe you’ll have the chance to get together with other freelancers to discuss your days.
This can give you a sense of camaraderie and work with a group, even as you’re typing away in PJs.
Let’s focus this one toward our friends working remotely for a company. Even though your position is remote, you’re still employed through a corporation or a business.
Just because you work from home doesn’t mean you can’t head into the office at all. You’re running your show, so you can pop into the office to get the social interaction you need.
If you work remotely, your coworkers will be happy to see their team member.
If you work freelance, all hope isn’t lost! There’s a possibility you can find a co-work space to meet other remote and freelance workers.
If you want something a little more grown up than your neighborhood Starbucks to work at, you may want to try taking a visit to your local library.
Libraries have the benefit of being quiet as well as being hubs of information for absolutely anything you need.
They may not seem like the most social environments at first, but who knows who you’ll meet? From other remote workers to students studying, you’ll be surprised at who you can find!
Additionally, libraries are awesome places to find out information about social events. Most libraries host groups devoted to particular hobbies.
Even when you’re working in isolation, the importance of freelancing doesn’t go away. Even though it’s more feasible than ever to work remotely, there’s a chance that could mean that networking is needed more than ever.
Networking can help you not only in the job department but socially. It’s more important than ever to unplug and work on honing our social skills, so don’t let industry events and mixers fall to the wayside.
You’ll get the chance to connect with other freelancers or remote workers as peers, and you may even find a new mentor who can help you up your dream job’s ladder.
Just because you work remotely or freelance doesn’t mean that you have to spend your days in isolation. Interaction with other people is important, and sometimes it’s possible to forget that it isn’t just you against the world.
Humans are social creatures, and you won’t win any battles by fighting that. Luckily, there are a ton of great ways to make sure you get the social interaction you need.
Start with WorkSocial. Our coworking office can put you in contact with fellow freelancers, letting you kick isolation to the curb once and for all.
Questions regarding solutions for freelance work? Ready to beat your lonely workday? Feel free to reach out to WorkSocial today.